Positive Approaches

     I read a New York Times column this morning by Bruce Feiler about the the way the fashion industry is marketing sexually oriented clothes to his 8 year old daughters. The column was called “This Life” and the subhead was “A Line Between Sweet and Skimpy.”

     It struck me that the challenges he described are even greater for dads of daughters who have social challenges related to Asperger Syndrome. Girls with Asperger Syndrome can be at risk of trying too hard to fit in and can have a harder time accepting explanations about what's appropriate to wear.

     It's hard to overstate the value of self-esteem. It supercharges our brains to give us ideas and energy. It makes us feel and look better. But the dark side to this equation is that a lack of self-esteem has the opposite effect. 

Where’s the graduation speech for people with Asperger Syndrome? 

     You’re right.  You know you’re right.  You know what’s best for your child.  You also know he’s not buying it.  She’s got her own ideas and your logic won’t penetrate her shields.